Energy Savers Or Energy Drainers And Your Personal Energy Use
How do you avoid energy burnout?
The first step in restoring your vitality is to identify what is draining your energy. Once you have pinpointed these energy deficits you can then start to make changes and set boundaries that enlighten, restore and re-energize you.
The first step in restoring your vitality is to identify what is draining your energy.
Think about your own energy drains and ask yourself two questions: “What would be possible if you no longer tolerated these drains in your life” AND ” What are you currently doing to address your energy drains?” Your challenge, to Put your attention and time into the thoughts that lift you up, instead of the ones that bring you down.
An energy supply is within you which gives you the ability to generate changes or transformations in within ourselves.
Energy is the ability to act,
Energy is the fuel behind transformation or change.
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What Are You Cultivating In Your Life Weeds Or Flowers?
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Everything that grows, whether a huge tree or a fragile flower, starts off as a tiny seed hidden from view.
What seeds have already come to life in you?
What seeds remain hidden in you, waiting for the right time?
Gardens need water and sunshine.
What nurtures you? Time alone in a special place? Talking and listening to friends?
Like a newborn child, gardening involves the cultivation and protection when growing.
What might damage the growth in you? What needs protecting and who can help you? How might you change it for the better?
Gardening also involves cutting back and taking out.
What needs pruning or shaping in your life?
Find your answers within, and you will reap your own rewards! |
It’s Mud Season How Stuck Are You?
What comes to mind when you think about mud?
While mostly associated with sloppy, wet and slippery weather conditions, mud can also be associated with the human condition of “stuckness”. No, I am not referring to your car being stuck, or the moment your realize that you are “stuck” in mud and your shoes have been sucked off your feet! I am however, speaking about “feelings of being stuck” and the challenges those feelings can invite.
So what is it that creates feelings of “stuckness”?
Feelings of stuckness evolve from situations that you may not know how to change. Or maybe you are too close to a situation, and what you are seeing is as clear as mud! The problem, “sticking with” what you know or what is comfortable doesn’t always generate clarity, direction, or opportunity! The challenge is to have new eyes because with a new set of eyes and ears you may ease your feelings of “stuckness” by inviting a different perspective and a new discovery. Many thoughts and beliefs are associated with feeling stuck, the most recognized, denial. Denial is an expression of stuckness which demonstrates an individual’s inability to adapt to change. Expressions of denial can be made with words and/or actions and sometimes they are one in the same. For example, the use of word “cannot” when broken down creates two words, can and not which raises the question, what I am “willing to do” and “what am I willing to face”.
Personally I have answered that question two ways. I have said things like ” I cannot help you this weekend because….(here comes the action with my rationalizations or justifications making my answer an expression of denial. ) The payoff, for me answering this way was the maneuver – the redirection of responsibility. That is not to say that every time the word “cannot” is used that is the intention. I have also said “I cannot help you right now” (indicating I did feel I had a choice and I was comfortable with facing the situation). Know the question I ask myself is why wouldn’t I be willing to communicate accurately, openly and with conviction?
“The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse” Author Unknown
(SOS) Symptoms Of Stuckness
Negativity: It’s hard to reach your full potential when your busy telling yourself what you can’t do! Ask yourself is your attitude part of your solution or part of your problem?
Why not try: Keeping your eyes focused on your goals instead of the obstacles and challenges. Anyone can create a problem that will leave themselves feeling “stuck” but why would you make that choice?
The Blame Game: Don’t waste time slinging mud, blaming others keeps you stuck an unable to focus on solutions.
Why not try: Accepting responsibility and make your voice heard, and your life your own!
Narrow mindedness: If you have an idea that has been stuck for a while, then why not ask yourself, “what other opportunities are here for me”?
Why not try: Exploring different perspectives and use your strengths to create new opportunities that will help to bring about positive change.
The Inner Garden Cultivating Your True Self
Symbolic of gardening, the pathway to cultivating your true self is in rooted living. Not unlike a garden, cultivating your true self takes time, patience and hard work whereas cultivating weeds (false sense of self) does not. Your first step towards identifying with your true self involves awareness of how outside influences impact your perception of how you see yourself. By doing so, you will be exploring the person you were meant to be before being distracted by outside influences and expectations. Among these distractions are material possessions, experiences, accomplishments, fears and worries that you relate to social status or expectations.
Why not ask yourself are your thoughts and actions consistent or inconsistent with the ways that you want live and what role do your beliefs and your illusions have on your life? Who is your biggest critic or champion and what is it that you identify with that alters your thoughts of insecurity into security or fear into self confidence?~
Illusion: my success or social status matter and give me value.
By knowing my true self: I am confident and found and belief in the value that is MYSELF.
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Belief: What I have defines me.
Illusion:my material wealth defines my value.
By knowing my true self: I already have what I need within ME.
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Belief: What others do, have, or think about me defines me. Illusion: What matters to others matters to everyone and that makes me valuable.
By knowing my true self: I accept myself as having value and therefore have no need to compare MYSELF to others.
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“Your very life depends on everything
recurring ’til we answer from within.
Robert Frost
If you’re feeling lost right now, give me a call or email me and let’s talk about how you can get to know your true self.
Between Frost, Flurries and Flowers Timing is Everything
Each day and each moment you live gives you a new opportunity to create the life you want.
It can be argued that the months of March and April are symbolic of a state of limbo. Limbo being illustrated as a state of “suspension“, or “in between” that is not associated with indecisiveness or actions, but timing. In my work as a coach I find that what matters is the right action at the right time.
So how do you know when the right time is to make a change in your life? Many people like to think that timing is something that is controlled or planned, but in actuality timing is something that is felt as much as it is planned. Though a simple concept, timing can be hard to accept, leaving many people beating themselves up for not doing things when they think they should have. There is nothing wrong with wanting things to happen within a certain time frame or immediately, the problem arises when timing creates a platform for an anxious life. No matter whether or not you can make things happen or not, you can certainly save yourself some frustration when things feel out of sync by releasing your thoughts or expectations and by doing so you will avoid getting caught up in should, would, and could haves of your life.
How paying attention to timing, can help you use your resources effectively. When find yourself not able to bring about change, it’s important to surrender, because the time may simply not be right. Try finding your answers by not only thinking about the question but also feeling your answer. If that sounds a little out there, try and think of it this way, every year during the months of March and April the transition between frost and flowers unfolds. Feeling it’s way through the soil, the crocus does not force it’s way to the surface, but allows for the release of the cold weather to unfold. The message, making the best use of your resources – your time, your energy and your efforts is not trying to do everything and be everything, or even doing it in the quickest way possible. It is making the most and best of what you have while enjoying the process.
In action timing is everything
Force doesn’t matter.
Weight doesn’t matter.
All that matters is timing.
The American Businessman & The Mexican Fisherman
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I came across this posting by Matt Barcus President, Precision Executive Search Managing Partner, A/E/P Central, LLC, home of CivilEngineeringCentral.com
You may have already read this this story or heard it once or twice, but as we ponder the years past, and the year ahead, I find the following story, to be worthwhile. An American businessman was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican fisherman replied,”Only a little while.” The American then asked, “Why didn’t your stay out longer and catch more fish?” The Mexican said,” Because I have enough to support my family’s immediate needs.” The American then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?” The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos; I have a full and busy life, senor.”
The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. Then, with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats; eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senor, how long will this all take?” To which the American replied, “15-20 years.”
“But what then, senor?”
The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part! When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions.”
“Millions, senor? Then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”
~Author Unknown
The lesson: Know where you’re going in life … you may already be there.
Laughter, Life’s Shock Absorber
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Laugh With This True Love Story
An Illinois man who left the snow-filled streets of Chicago for a vacation in Florida. His wife was on a business trip and was planning to meet him there the next day. When he reached his hotel, he decided to send his wife a quick e-mail. Unable to find the scrap of paper on which he had written her e-mail address, he did his best to type it from memory. Unfortunately, he missed one letter and his note was directed instead to an elderly woman whose husband had passed away only the day before. When the grieving widow checked her e-mail, she took one look at the monitor, let out a piercing scream, and fell to the floor in a dead faint. At the sound, her family rushed into the room and saw this note on the screen:
DEAREST WIFE:
JUST GOT CHECKED IN
EVERYTHING PREPARED FOR YOUR ARRIVAL TOMORROW
YOUR LOVING HUSBAND
P.S. SURE IS HOT DOWN HERE
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Who Do I Need to Appreciate: Why Self Love Is So Important
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Why is self-love so important, and what does it have to do with loving others? In my work as a life coach I think in terms of partnerships and see the potential for joy and love in every living thing.
Not unlike plants, animals, and people, love has a birthplace. It is a gift that is given at the start of life that is supported by nature’s alliance with nurture. Love grows when it is nurtured, and dwindles when neglected. By discovering what you love about yourself, and honoring what you need, you cultivate love. Self-love is not arrogant but a healthy expression of self worth and appreciation that fulfills and nourishes the heart.
“Love is above all all else the gift on one self”
Jean Anouilh
Tips On Nourishing Your Life with a Loving Heart
* Refuse to criticize yourself, accept yourself as you are.* Make your voice heard and your needs know by honoring what is best for you.* Make time for yourself to have fun by turning a frown upside down and laugh.
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Hope or Hopelessness: Finding Hope in Your Life
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Hope is one reaction to pain, hopelessness is another. This past year, many people have been abruptly derailed by events which have left them teeter-tottering between feelings of hope and hopelessness. Both are powerful experiences and part of the human condition. The two are meaningless without the other though. Just as hope is crucial to lifting the burden of hopelessness, a state of hopelessness is also necessary to foster a need for hope. In this way, both positive and negative emotions have a powerful ability to affect your life, but it is your experience to command. Is finding the hope worth your effort? Your answer will either develop a sense of hope or hopelessness.Hope does not just come into your life, it needs to be developed. So what generates hope? You. The spark which generates hope is more than wishful thinking, it is a life supporting emotional fuel which encompasses your beliefs, confidence, and determination to continue. Hope does not ignore the reality of difficult times, it seeks opportunities during them. Hope refreshes you with courage. Borrowing the words of Albert Einstein, “whether you learn from yesterday, live for today, or hope for tomorrow” it is all up to you.
It is my wish for all of us is that we be renewed with a sense of hope.
Here are some thought provoking tips, that will help you find out how “hope” can be the most exciting thing in life! Questions to ponder How important has hope been for you in the past year? Where do you place your attention, do you spend most of your energy in a positive or negative frame of mind? Reflection Exercise This is a meditation about releasing hopelessness, choosing to be worthy of hope, feeling hopeful and experiencing hope. For best results, read Dr. Daniel J. Benor, MD meditation video out loud. |
The Chains that Bind You!
Mechanism for change, a shift in attitude:
Don’t that let that which is used to describe you, define you.
Pave your own path don’t wait for others to lead you.